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Mostly-Happily Ever After: About This Blog

Anyone who has been married more than a few months knows the truth: happily ever after is a myth. But mostly-happily ever after, well, that might be do-able. If only someone sensible could tell us how. 

Neither of us is the sensible person you’re looking for. But we are on the hunt for all reasonable recommendations of how to last through the first years, or the second ten; how to make fresh what seems stale; how to make a good marriage great. 

Think of this blog as a clearinghouse of ideas and commentary related to Mostly-Happily Ever After. 

A friend once said that a good marriage is part method, part mystery. We hope what you find here will help you think through the methods of your own relationship, and create a positive environment where the mystery can occur. 

You'll find a few types of posts here:

- Updates: We read a lot about marriage so you don't have to. Check out the updates for a review of the latest marriage research, the best common sense wisdom, or new perspectives on the art and science of staying together.

You'll find "Use It Now" notes at the bottom of some of these updates. This is our attempt to help you take what you've read from the computer screen to your kitchen ... or bedroom, backyard, front seat, etc.

- Book Reviews: There are libraries full of great books on marriage, but let's be honest: given the choice between an academic book on marriage or the next best seller, you'll pick the best seller every time. Skim our reviews and pick up some of the best content from the books you aren't reading.

- Assorted other stuff: Like life, a lot of what happens in The Marriage Project can't be categorized. Maybe it's just for fun. Maybe it's confessional. Enjoy it for what it's worth. 

Let’s be honest: we’re doing this for ourselves. After 10 years of marriage, we’ve yet to find any “marriage enrichment” resources that felt right for our relationship. (Check out the post, “Enough with the Silly Love Songs” for the story.) So we’re starting a dialogue of our own. And to hold us accountable, we’re sharing them with you. 

Tell us what you think – we can take brutal honesty – and share your ideas too.